If you know me, you know that I firmly believe in God, and my favorite character is Jesus. But I never go to church, let alone pray rosaries, read the Bible, etc. I respect the beliefs of human beings. My sister Diomare lives praying and involved in the church, and I love her madly; my husband Álvaro Skupin was even going to be a pastor; and in my house there are more Bibles than clothes in the closets, and I swear I have a lot, it’s what I work with.
Why is Jesus the character I admire the most? At the school where I was a boarder, we were forced to read the Bible every day. I always read the New Testament, and I also loved watching the Jesus movies. His message was one of love and respect for others, and he defended women, who at that time were worth less than a mangy dog. If not, remember one of his best phrases: “He who feels free from sin, cast the first stone.” Thus he defended a woman accused of infidelity. He helped her up and told her: “go and sin no more.”
He was an extraordinary being, he walked around in flip-flops and surrounded by fishermen; he fought hard when he got to the church and saw that they were disrespecting his father’s house. If he saw what his church is today, I think he would have himself crucified again.
Jesus was 21 centuries ahead of psychology, so he could not be a simple human being. Let me explain.
You have to love others, but first you have to give yourself, and people don’t understand this. I think neither his church. When I tell Diomare (who lives for others, helps everyone and takes away his food to give to others) that he is misunderstanding Jesus, he looks at me surprised and tells me: “he who gives receives”.
And it’s true, but the one who gives to the one who doesn’t, finds himself in an unfair and psychologically dangerous relationship. If there is no relational justice, relationships do not work. You have to give in the way he is received, or he ends up exploding with rage, or with depression.
Nobody is perfect. We are all full of unresolved issues, and this influences our behavior. The unconscious dominates us and is responsible for “everything” that we do, who we fall in love with, what we say and think.
Objectivity does not exist. No one can be totally objective. His vision of the world is based on experiences and unresolved issues. In other words, everything, or almost everything we believe and say, is influenced by our worldview. Rather, everything is subjective, even science.
Hence, no one moved and everyone left when He said: “He who is without sin, cast the first stone.”
(Dedicated especially to judges, lawyers, priests, pastors, presidents, dictators and religious fanatics. Amen).
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