In these times, one of the things that families advocate the most is to respect the rights and individuality of each child, above all to stop seeing them as entities that cannot decide for themselves, in order to recognize that their own ability to decide on what they want and like.
This is done precisely with the intention of encouraging young children to set the necessary limits that can save them from the clutches of predators that they can commit abuses against them.
So many now ask themselves certain questions such as is it wrong to hug or kiss minors without their consent? are they at risk? What is the importance of them deciding to receive a hug or a kiss on the cheek?
These questions can generate controversy, especially because there are those who they confuse certain situations with rudeness or, there are those who believe that there is nothing wrong with hugging or kissing children, especially if they are family. The truth is that many crimes against minors are precisely carried out by people from their close family nucleus.
Faced with this situation, a mother shared a clip on TikTok where she tells of a prohibition that he did to his in-laws: they cannot kiss or hug their 2-year-old daughter without the girl’s permission.
As expected, this situation generated a lot of controversy. What is correct? What are the motives or reasons for this rule?
The mother, named Brittany Baxter justified the ban on her in-laws arguing that all she wants is for her daughter to have the power to say yes or no, and above all about herself.
“As a mother, I practice consent with my daughter and this is something that has really been bugging me,” commented Brittany Baxter on TikTok.
@brittanybaxter_x I said what I said… #gentleparenting #consent #fyp
♬ original sound – Brittany
“Can we start to normalize the fact that children don’t have to kiss adults?” said the woman in her clip. Then, she explained that she is bothered that her in-laws do not want to respect the decision she made of her as her mother, because despite her request they continue to kiss her. According to the woman, when her in-laws kiss the girl and she says “no”, they question her. “What, do we have to ask you for a kiss and a hug?”, they ask her granddaughter.
“My daughter’s body does not exist so that no one feels more comfortable and loved. No one’s feelings will be more important than my daughter’s right to decide her own body. You don’t have to sacrifice your boundaries in order to ease other people’s discomfort,” Brittany said.
The mother’s statement has caused a stir and divided opinions. Some do consider it important that their daughter knows how to set limits from now on, while others do believe that this rule is very strict, especially when it comes to grandparents.
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