There is a poem by Rainer Maria Rilke that is capable of moving the deepest fibers of my soul. It’s called “Loving Questions.” Allow me then to share it: “Be patient with everything / that has not been resolved in your heart / and try to love the questions for themselves, / as if they were closed rooms / or books written in a foreign language. / Do not look for answers now / that you are not prepared to live, / because the key is to live everything. / Live the questions now. / Perhaps you will find them, gradually, without noticing them, / and some distant day you will arrive at the answers”.
Life is this journey that leads us to discover, find, solve questions. It is the questions, rather than the answers, that make the journey worthwhile. Our growth is in the questions, rather than the answers.
Naturally, the quality of the questions we ask ourselves determines the quality of the trip. It’s about asking powerful questions. Questions that question you, open up new perspectives and, therefore, new possible scenarios and destinations to explore and reach.
When we feel stuck in an affective relationship, when we no longer feel motivated by what we do, or within ourselves, a concern arises: why don’t we feel satisfaction for Who are we and why do we do? That is to say, any crisis, small or large, offers us on a silver platter the question that we can welcome and love.
But the problem is that most of the time we avoid them. We prefer to ignore them. We are lazy to understand these questions. The strategies we use to avoid them are several. It can be alcohol, drugs, permanent partying, hours spent on Netflix or social networks, pornography, binge eating.
We could say that behind addictions or disorders small or large that we develop in our life, there is a resistance to facing powerful questions that we could explore. We could also say, on the other hand, that behind our addictions and disorders there is something new and wonderful that wants to be awakened. There is the opportunity for something genuine, authentic, that wants to emerge and be generated. It is many times, from the darkness and shadows of our own inner basement, that the most powerful questions emerge. If we love them, they put us on the path to deep happiness, to fulfillment.
Today, then, I I want to make an invitation: what are the powerful questions that you should ask yourself and that you are avoiding? What is the real question behind emotions of sadness, overwhelm, dissolution or anger? In a word: what is the question you have to love today in your life?
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