Imagine the scene: a girl tries on a cute dress, does a twist and, with great satisfaction, straightens it. The adults around her echo her delight and tell her how pretty she is.
Later, she looks at her favorite books and sees skinny people and skinny animals going on exciting adventures, while that their heavier counterparts are portrayed as slow or clumsy. Sometimes you realize that your own parents worry about your weight or appearance.
By the time you are a teenager, your parents may worry about the impact of influencers in the body image she has of herself.
But research indicates that, in reality, their perception of bodies and their social acceptance will have been formed much earlier, in those early years.
When we think about our relationship with our bodies, it is often difficult to determine precisely where our satisfaction or dissatisfaction comes from.
If we think about our childhood, we can remember a collection of comments or observations . None of them may seem hugely shocking on their own. And yet their cumulative effect can be surprisingly powerful.
Whether in the form of praise or criticism, the type of attention to body shapes can establish beliefs and insecurities that are difficult to eliminate.
The consequences can be tremendously harmful, as studies show, with family attitudes and derogatory comments about linked to mental health problems and eating disorders.
In addition, the broader stigmatization of overweight children has increased, which affects their self-esteem and, of course, their body image.
Given how early this awareness of body ideals begins, what can parents and caregivers do to help children feel self-confident and more supportive of others?
Body shaming is not innate
Physical ideals differ greatly through time and different cultures – a quick look at any painting by Peter Paul Rubens, or even the statuette of 29.60 years known as the “Venus of Willendorf”, shows how exuberantly humans have embraced curvaceous features.
From a young age, children are influenced by their parents’ views on physical appearance. (Photo: GETTY IMAGES/JAVIER HIRSCHFELD)
But today, despite a growing body positivity movement that celebrates all shapes and sizes, the idea that a slim body is preferable remains pervasive on social media, in traditional media, on television, on the big screen and in advertising.
Awareness of body ideals begins early and reflects children’s experience of the world around them.
In one study, children aged 3 to 5 years were asked to choose a figure from a range of slim to large sizes, to represent a child with positive or negative characteristics.
For example, they were asked which children would be mean or nice, which children would be teased by others, and which children they would invite to the birthday party. Children tended to choose larger figures to represent negative characteristics.
Crucially, this bias was influenced by others: for example, their own mothers’ attitudes and beliefs about body shapes affected the outcome.
Furthermore, older children showed a stronger bias than younger children, again indicating that it was learned, not innate.
The findings “indicate that children’s social environments are important in the development of positive and negative attitudes toward weight,” the researchers conclude.
“We see the patterns in which children attribute positive characteristics to slimmer figures and negative characteristics to larger figures,” says Sian McLean, a psychology professor at La Trobe University in Melbourne, Australia, who is specializing in It leads to body dissatisfaction.
“They are developing that early, which is a concern because they potentially have the opportunity to internalize that perception, that being thinner is desirable and is associated with social rewards.”
Another study showed that the attitude of their parents towards weight influenced children up to 3 years of age. Over time, children’s negative associations with large bodies and awareness of how to lose weight increased.
There is often an element of gender in these perceptions, with sons more affected by the opinions of their fathers and daughters by the attitudes of their mothers.
Although fathers play an important role in shaping the attitudes and points of view of their children , it must be emphasized that they are far from the only influence that young people are exposed to and can often have a positive effect that can counter messages from other sources.