Sexual desire has been a great unknown for years. The famous Dr. Francisco Cabello, psychologist, doctor and sexologist, also director of the Andalusian Institute of Psychology and Sexology, is considered one of the people who knows the most about sexual desire in the world. He demonstrated on my daily network show, “Dr. Nancy”, which sexually speaking is the man who, when it comes to sex, “gets a headache”. This change has been brewing since the 80s.
The doctor has done the world’s largest research on sexual desire. His study, conducted in 71 countries, with a sample of 22,000 people, became the largest on the subject. In this sample there were 18,500 women and 1,890 men and it was found that men are the ones who, when making love, “have headaches.” This is what men said about women who generally didn’t want to have sex. Today it is no longer true.
Erotophilia (loving and enjoying sex) and erotophobia (people who do not feel much desire, see sex as something only to procreate) have changed a lot. Now it is not the man who has the greatest erotophilia, but the woman. On a sexual level, women enjoy her sexuality more. This is a great discovery.
Erotophilia equals fun sex, open mind towards sexuality. It’s part of leisure, it’s something you like. Fewer visits to the psychiatrist. Be happier, more open about sexuality. These people are longer.
For years we have believed that erotophilia was almost always higher in men, but that has become a myth. Women need more intimacy, but on a sexual level she is equal to or better than men.
One in four men has problems with their sexual desire. While the woman hardly has a “headache” anymore and she only needs a few “different steps” to reach her desire. Intimacy, good treatment and a man who pushes me to be me and thus achieve “being me being with you” will be enough.
This has a lot to do with what I never tire of repeating: women have achieved their feminine liberation, they have managed to penetrate quite a bit, although not enough, into the masculine space. But man has not made the masculine liberation of him, and this confirms what I have been writing and saying for more than 20 years: it is difficult to be a man in this day and age.
The man suffers, he doesn’t know what to do with this new woman. Society demands changes, but has not prepared them. Asking them to be loving, communicative, tender, affectionate and to say “I love you” is something very difficult for them.
They have gone from being kings to not knowing how to live without being a king. It is us, women, who must teach them, in addition to society.
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