By Dr. Nancy Álvarez
05 May 2024, 09:23 AM EDT
If you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about any part of your body, it is crucial to broach the topic openly with your partner. Confidence is essential to overcome any complex that generates shame. In love and in life, honest communication is key to building a strong and healthy relationship.
Do you have any complexes?
A complex is something that you are ashamed of, you don’t want to do, you think it’s bad, or it’s going to hurt you. “I don’t want them to see my legs because they are very skinny or I have a lot of cellulite” or “I don’t want them to see me naked because this part is very small” are things that can happen regularly.
However, when you marry a person, it is very difficult to go through life without fully seeing their body. That person sleeps with you, and in the long run all your tricks will come out. So how are we going to work on it?
We have to talk about the complexes. If yours is so big that you want to change it, for example, through surgery or whatever, your partner has to know. Your partner should be the best friend you can have. If he’s not your best friend and your best lover, what are we talking about then?
We must open up slowly. You meet a man, you go out with him, you get married after six months, and you tell him everything you know about him since he was born? No. There are things you don’t have to tell your husband. So that? To make her jealous about the boyfriends she had or the caresses they gave her when she was twenty? What’s that? These things are not shared with husbands or wives.
Apart from that, I think it’s very good that you talk about the issues that make you complex, that you don’t like or that hurt you. Do you know if the person you have had by your side for years is suffering from something? What if what your partner likes most is what you consider a complex?
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